Marriage Counseling Video

Marriage Counseling Video

In my domestic violence classes, I help both the men and the women who are court ordered to my classes understand the difference between power and control behaviors and offering choice, which is the opposite of domestic violence.

That understanding is key to marriage counseling videos for domestic violence.

I also teach about the skills involved in creating a relationship, like listening and assertive communication and I use the John and Julie Scwartz Gottman model called The Art and Science of Love, because it has lots of paper and pencil exercises that a couple can do together, and videos to watch.

The Gottman's talk a lot about the skills that the Masters of Marriage display, including nurturing positive feelings, and using repair phrases.

While the Gottman's tell us to nurture positive feelings, they do not explain in any detail how to do that, or how often we need to do that.

My feelings can change, based on what I am paying attention to and the thoughts I am creating about what I am paying attention to, in as little as 1/45th second according to neuroplasticity expert Michael Merzenich,Ph.D., which is about four times faster than I can blink my eyes.

I need to learn nurture positive feeling skills that operate at the speed of my central nervous system.

There are two skills that work that fast, one is deep breathing, which few of us practice with any great regularity, and the other is HeartMath, which is a program I practice, until I have learned it, on my PC.

Heart intelligence, which is what I tap with HeartMath, is an affiliative and cooperative intelligence, which I can keep going for a long time, if I want to.

Here are a couple of marriage counseling videos.

John Gottman on the Importance of Nurturing Positive Feelings

Mike Logan on Marriage Counseling Questions

The Role of HeartMath in Nurturing Positive Feelings

If you have been following the recent explosion of brain fitness programs and articles, then perhaps you have come across the blog, SharpBrains by Alvaro Fernandez, who calls the HeartMath emWave one of the two best stress management tools available.

For more information about brain fitness, please read Brainfit for Life by Simon Evans,Ph.D. and Paul Burghardt,Ph.D., neuroscientists at the University of Michigan who write about the pillars of brain fitness, physical exercise, nutrition, sleep, stress management, and novel learning experiences.

Interesting how one tool, the HeartMath suite of tools help in both marriage and brain fitness.

Or perhaps you have a child who will soon be taking his college entrance exams, or a golfer who needs a little help with the yelps.

Go to HeartMath. Click the link below for a demonstration and information on a 30 day risk free offer.