Gratitude for Emotional Intelligence
Hello Mike - Love your site!
Even though I've always done well academically, which enabled me to finish a Bachelor's degree in record time some thirty years after I first started college, I'm most grateful for my emotional intelligence.
Paying attention to my feelings, and honoring those of others made it possible for me to overcome suicidal thoughts related to incest experiences and all the losses from being uprooted constantly as a child, even though my dad was a doctor.
This intelligence also nudged me to find help through therapy and 12 Step programs such as Al-Anon and Survivors of Incest groups. Al-Anon turned around my relationship with my husband (a mentally, physically and emotionally abused child of an alcoholic) such that we are past the quarter century mark and our relationship is very good.
In addition, emotional intelligence had me realize that if we continued to live under the amount of stress we were experiencing, one or both of us would end up with a life threatening illness or fatal accident.
As a result, my husband quit his toxic work environment before retirement age, we sold our house as the market was going down, got rid of nearly all our possessions, and lived out of an RV for a couple of years working odd jobs and building an online business (SBI! is the way to go), before buying our forever home.
We have managed much better than initially expected - we live in a place where we want to be, have enough for our needs, a flexible work schedule, and lots of opportunities for outdoor recreation and playing music. We are also making couple friends and getting together regularly with others for the first time since the kids came along.
Our two kids are well adjusted and squared away. Unlike our families of origin, we were able to be honest with them and talk about reality. In addition, we have managed to stay away from various disparaging relatives who show no aptitude for emotional intelligence at all despite their PhDs (some in the counseling field!)...
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