A divorce coach will help you to keep sight of your strengths as you go through all the aspects of ending your marriage, and beginning the next stage of your life.
So you have decided to end your marriage, and you are experiencing a great deal of emotional turbulence which is impacting other areas of your personal life, and for whatever reason, working with a therapist is not an option.
A divorce coach may be a very good fit for you, and it looks like divorce coaches are becoming a more visible part of the divorce process.
I know that there are many online and offline divorce support groups, so it is logical that there be some professionals who offer divorce coaching.
But just like with any other professional service, do some evaluation and check credentials and determine whether this person or process is a good fit for you.
You might want to check to see if your potential divorce coach has been trained in collaborative divorce, for example. Unlike counseling or therapy, coaching is not supposed to focus on delving into your past to help you stop repeating your mistakes. Coaching does help you identify your strengths and goals and to work towards achieving them.
A divorce coach:
* is a skilled professional, trained to help you manage a wide variety of emotions and issues that arise during divorce, which may mean mindfulness or Heartmath training.
* helps you make informed decisions about your parenting, lifestyle, family, and social interactions.
* provides a safe environment to explore feelings of anger, guilt, fear, sadness and frustration, and can perhaps recommend an experiential counselor or therapist to help with that process.
* will help you reconstruct emotional boundaries when dealing with your ex-spouse.
Another option for your divorce coaching which is very convenient is an online coach, working through e-mail, chat, phone, or even video sessions.
One of the most troublesome aspects of the divorce is concern for the wellbeing of the kids, who will struggle with their own emotions surrounding what is going on in the family.
The Heartmath heart rate variability biofeedback training is a great way for kids and parents to work on the new 'heart beat' of the family. Your heart has its own nervous system, a brain of its own so to speak, which is a collaborative and cooperative brain leading to collaborative and cooperative behaviors, and certainly reduced stress for the kids, and parents.
I have trained many couples in Heartmath, or training the brain in the heart to beat coherently, by training them separately and then bringing them together to hold hands while observing their own heart rate variability, and watching a heartbeat of the relationship emerge from their individual heart beats.
Folks learn very fast how the thoughts of one of both partners impacts that relationship heart beat, making it more or less coherent, and both folks learn that they can quickly move from coherence to incoherence and back by managing their thoughts.
Great tool for the new family to have, a tool that helps them effectively manage the new heart beat for the new family. There is a link to the Heartmath suite of tools in the right column.
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