This page, taken from SAMSA, is a very good outline of effective counseling skills. While this scenario involves a disaster, the same skills are very important in any human transaction, or in any counseling scenario.
For Mental Health and Human Services Workers
in Major Disasters
DISASTER COUNSELING SKILLS
Disaster counseling skill involves both listening and guiding. Survivors typically benefit from both talking about their disaster experiences and being assisted with problem-solving and referral to resources. The following section provides "nuts-and-bolts" suggestions for workers.
Survivors respond when workers offer caring eye contact, a calm presence, and are able to listen with their hearts. Rapport refers to the feelings of interest and understanding that develop when genuine concern is shown. Conveying respect and being nonjudgmental are necessary ingredients for building rapport.
Workers listen most effectively when they take in information through their ears, eyes, and "extrasensory radar" to better understand the survivor's situation and needs. Some tips for listening are:
Allow silence - Silence gives the survivor time to reflect and become aware of feelings. Silence can prompt the survivor to elaborate. Simply "being with" the survivor and their experience is supportive.
Attend nonverbally - Eye contact, head nodding, caring facial expressions, and occasional "uh-huhs" let the survivor know that the worker is in tune with them.
Paraphrase - When the worker repeats portions of what the survivor has said, understanding, interest, and empathy are conveyed. Paraphrasing also checks for accuracy, clarifies misunderstandings, and lets the survivor know that he or she is being heard. Good lead-ins are: "So you are saying that . . . " or "I have heard you say that . . . "
Reflect feelings - The worker may notice that the survivor's tone of voice or nonverbal gestures suggests anger, sadness, or fear. Possible responses are, "You sound angry, scared etc., does that fit for you?" This helps the survivor identify and articulate his or her emotions.
Allow expression of emotions - Expressing intense emotions through tears or angry venting is an important part of healing; it often helps the survivor work through feelings so that he or she can better engage in constructive problem-solving. Workers should stay relaxed, breathe, and let the survivor know that it is OK to feel.
SOME DO'S AND DON'T'S
These are normal reactions to a disaster. It is understandable that you feel this way. You are not going crazy. It wasn't your fault, you did the best you could. Things may never be the same, but they will get better, and you will feel better. Don't say:
It could have been worse. You can always get another pet/car/house. It's best if you just stay busy. I know just how you feel. You need to get on with your life. The human desire to try to fix the survivor's painful situation or make the survivor feel better often underlies the preceding "Don't say" list. However, as a result of receiving comments such as these, the survivor may feel discounted, not understood, or more alone. It is best when workers allow survivors their own experiences, feelings, and perspectives.
Disaster stress often causes disorganized thinking and difficulty with planning. Some survivors react by feeling overwhelmed and become either immobilized or unproductively overactive. Workers can guide survivors through the following problem-solving steps to assist with prioritizing and focusing action.
Identify and define the problem Describe the problems/challenges you are facing right now.
Selecting one problem is helpful, identify it as the most immediate, and focus on it first. The problem should be relatively solvable, as an immediate success is important in bringing back a sense of control and confidence.
Assess the survivor's functioning and coping How have you coped with stressful life events in the past?
How are you doing now?
Through observation, asking questions, and reviewing the magnitude of the survivor's problems and losses, the worker develops an impression of the survivor's capacity to address current challenges. Based on this assessment-the worker may make referrals, point out coping strengths, and facilitate the survivor's engagement with social supports. The worker may also seek consultation from medical, psychological, psychiatric, or disaster relief resources.
Evaluate available resources Who might be able to help you with this problem?
What resources/options might help?
Explore existing sources of assistance and support such as immediate and extended family, friends, church community, health care providers, etc. and how the survivor might obtain their help. Refer the survivor to the appropriate relief agencies and assess if the survivor is able to make the calls and complete the required applications. Assist with accessing resources when necessary.
Develop and implement a plan What steps will you take to address this problem?
Encourage the survivor to say aloud what he or she plans to do and how. Offer to check-in with the survivor in a few days to see how it is going. If the worker has agreed to perform a task for the survivor, it is very important to follow through. Workers should promise only what they can do, not what they would like to do.
A WORD OF CAUTION
When confronted with a disaster survivor's seemingly overwhelming needs, workers can feel the understandable impulse to help in every way possible. Workers may become over involved and do too much for the survivor. This is usually not in the best interest of the survivor. When survivors are empowered to solve their own problems, they feel more capable, competent, and able to tackle the next challenge. Workers should clearly understand the scope of their role in the disaster relief effort and recognize that empowering survivors is different from doing for them.
A helping person is in a privileged position. Helping a survivor in need infers a sharing of problems, concerns, and anxieties-sometimes with intimate details. This special sharing cannot be done without a sense of trust, built upon mutual respect, and the explicit understanding that all discussions are confidential and private. No case should be discussed elsewhere without the consent of the person being helped (except in an extreme emergency when it is judged that the person will harm himself or others). It is only by maintaining the trust and respect of the survivor that the privilege of helping can continue to be exercised.
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