A chemistry match for your relationship? Is it useful? Does it speed up the process of getting to the good stuff, that flood of dopamine that keeps us talking all night, writing long letters, pining away, among other things that lovers do?
How can science possibly measure such an intense human experience?
Helen Fisher,Ph.D., has been studying the phenomenon of romantic love and writing about it for 30 years, which tells me that her interest in the chemistry of matching is more than a flirtation, and I am intrigued by folks who pour their passion into a pursuit.
Passion leads to remarkable insights about a process, and if you look at Fisher's model, you will experience some 'Aha's' as you read it, in other words it will fit with your personal experience.
I particularly like and trust Fisher's work a bit more because of the study of in-love brains and long-time-in-love brains and just-out-of-love brains using a functional magnetic resonance imaging machine (fMRI) to look at where the blood flows when folks are given a picture of their beloved.
When you can see it, it is more believable than statistical reliability and validity to me, anyway, and makes me more open to reading the rest of the Fisher model.
Fisher's model for chemistry matching has grown out of her research which indicates that we humans fall into four major personality types, each associated with a hormone or neurotransmitter, and that the flow of dopamine in a romantic love is best achieved with a compatible personality type, and that is where her personality quiz comes into play.
You take the quiz to determine what your personality type is, then join Chemistry.com to get matched with compatible others, whose neurotransmitters and hormones are more likely to spark that dopamine flood of romantic love.
This is what Fisher wrote about her types for Oprah Magazine;
"From my studies of genetics and neuroscience I have come to believe that people fall into four broad personality types — each influenced by a different brain chemical: I call them the Explorer, Builder, Director, and Negotiator. When I designed the survey, I wanted to see which types had married each other and stayed together, and how the mix was playing out in their relationships. Now, with additional data, I can offer scientific guidance about dating depending on which personality you are — especially if you're looking for chemistry that lasts.
So which love type are you? And what type do you bond with?
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