Brain Chemistry of Love

Brain chemistry of love

Dark chocolate does tell your brain to be alert for something pleasant happening.

That must be why Valentine's Day is so associated with chocolate and hearts.

Did you know your heart actually has a brain of its own, and that brain is an affiliative and cooperative brain?

That affiliative and cooperative heart, which is where lovers live, is sensitive to one of the most powerful hormones that we humans can secrete, oxytocin, which is the hormone that Helen Fisher, Ph.D. says is involved in romantic love, along with the androgens and dopamine.

This is what Helen Fisher writes in Oprah's newsletter;

"But the most powerful aphrodisiacs are already inside our bodies. Humans have evolved three different brain systems to encourage mating: sex drive (lust), feelings of attachment (trust), and romance (being in love). Each of these systems plays a role in desire, and scientists are now beginning to pinpoint the bodily chemicals that trigger each.

Lust: Sex drive is associated with a class of hormones called androgens, particularly testosterone (yes, women produce it, too). Today women with low libido can get a prescription for testosterone, even though it's FDA approved only for use in men. But women can also increase their levels without medication. Playing competitive sports has been shown to trigger testosterone production; in fact, women get a bigger boost than men prior to a competition. Making love can also create the same effect. Studies have suggested that sex raises testosterone levels, so the more sex you have, the more sex you desire.

Trust: Feelings of trust and attachment are fostered by the chemical oxytocin. In a study conducted at the University of Zurich, couples who used a nasal spray containing oxytocin before discussing an ongoing marital conflict were more likely to engage in friendly, positive communication than those who didn't take a whiff. You can stimulate oxytocin naturally with touch. Hold hands while you watch TV, trade massages, or sleep in each other's arms.

Love: The third chemical that drives relationships is dopamine, a key player in the brain's pleasure center that's been found to promote romantic love. Research shows that novelty—taking risks or trying something new—can trigger the release of dopamine in the brain. I'm not just talking about novelty in the bedroom (although that would be a good start). You can get the same effect from sampling a new type of cuisine together or riding the roller coaster at an amusement park.

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Now that you know how to induce the brain chemistry of romantic lust, you will want to make sure you are finding the right person for love.

Professor Fisher says that we humans are of four basic personality types, and you will find love to be deeper and richer if you are building it with a compatible personality type

You can find a compatible type by taking the personality quiz at

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